Hey Lovelies! I hope you are all doing well. إن شاء الله
Before I start I would like to apologise for not posting, in over a week. SORRY GUYS 😦 I have been super busy. A close friend of mine got married. YHYH! She’s the first out of the “clan” to get married, so you can imagine the stress and all excitement. I had 3 functions to attend; the Mehndi night, Wedding reception and the Walima. There was so much to do, but not enough time! We even had a few mishaps, but thankfully, no trips to the emergency room was required, but it came close, let’s just say “Look where you’re going, don’t text and walk at the same time”. (But that’s another story for another day)
Someone of you might be wondering, why am I telling you all this. I have a valid reason I promise. Something incredible happened and I thought I’d share it with you all.
Let’s rewind back to 6th months ago to the engagement. At the engagement there was a heated discussion between a group of women and bunch of my friends. Normally, I don’t really engage myself in heated discussions with people on any political or religious issue. I think it is a waste of time because the listener is not really listening to understand, but merely to know exactly which point they have to retaliate back to. But that day, somehow unknowingly, I was dragged into this conversation.
It started off with the group of women making remarks about “people who wear the Hijab saying they are uneducated and are a disgrace to the community” as they uttered these words I noticed the anger and frustration on all my friends faces, their faces went from happy to sad real quick. Whereas I was not so bothered; all this was rather amusing for me. It amused me that people still seem think this way in the 21st century. But than I remembered something my parents taught me they always said “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, their opinion might be different to yours, but it doesn’t make it wrong”, we should always value others opinion even if we disagree with them. I thought to myself it’s their mentality not mines so why does it even matter to me what they think.
My friends, however beg to differ they thought so otherwise, they started to argue saying they were just narrow minded people who needed to wake up and see the real world. Things were getting out of control, harsh words where being exchanged it wasn’t a pretty sight to be in. By this point there was a little group of people gathered round us all listening. I was so embarrassed at the way my friends where behaving it wasn’t like them. This was no way to speak to someone especial elders doesn’t matter if they were wrong their still older and deserve respect. As I calmed my friends down, telling them is was neither the right time nor the right place to have this discussion and that they should apologise and so they did.
As we were walking away a woman stopped me, she asked me why I didn’t say anything. I smiled and said there wasn’t anything for me to say. She said, but no of the other girls actually wore the Hijab and they felt so angry about what was said. But you on the other hand wear the Hijab, but said nothing. I could feel all eyes were on me; everyone went quite and started staring at me I could feel my heart pounding and my palms sweating. I was not expecting this I was put on the spot and didn’t know what to say or how to react. She asked me what my view was about all this was. I told her I disagreed with what her friends and her said, I told her I respect their opinion. But I had an option of my own. I said , “NO! I do not think you can define someone who chooses to wears the Hijab or dress modestly, as uneducated. I explained to them that Islam teaches us to gain knowledge and to always strive to be a better person. I also asked them a simple question; I asked, “if you saw a book with a plain boring cover would you still read it”. “YES of course we would, you cannot judge a book by its cover” they replied. So than I asked how can you judge someone because of what they wear and how they dress? What makes you think a person who wears the Hijab and dresses modestly is uneducated? I went on telling them Muslim women across the world who wear the Hijab are in very respectable professions such as; doctors, nursing, teaching and engineering does that make them uneducated. Hijab does not prevent us from educating ourselves it. Its ones thought that does. That being said, I smiled at them and offered them some chocolates (I had a tray of sweets on my hand, expect me to be near the chocolates) and walked away.
Coming back to the present day (Wedding day). I could see the women sitting on the far end table all talking and laughing really loudly, but there was something different, strange in fact about them. I soon realised two of women were missing out of the group, that’s odd I thought their always all together , maybe the others couldn’t come. I hope there okay I thought to myself. BUT than I heard a voice say looking for us. I turned around and saw two women standing in front of me I didn’t recognise them, but I didn’t want to be rude, so I asked how they are and even complimented them. Until one of them said you don’t recognise us do you. I told them I was sorry, I didn’t recognise them I even suggested they had mistaken me for someone else, but they laughed and said “Nope we are pretty sure your the girl we want to speak to.” They introduced themselves telling me they were the women who made remarks about “people who wear the Hijab are uneducated” they went on explaining about what I said had an impact on them and made them look at things from a different point of view. They told me they did their own research, about the importance of hijab which lead them to embraced the Hijab and dress modestly, they informed me that they have only been wearing the hijab for a few months now, but they felt happy and content with life. I cannot explain how happy I was when they told me this, the feeling is just indescribable.
I learnt a valuable lesson that day!